understanding men

When you first look at a man and a woman, you are able to notice the subtle differences between the sexes. It is when the two sexes communicate with each other, however, that the differences become truly glaring. This is because one is speaking "he talk" while the other is speaking "she talk."
Where this difference really becomes a problem is when you are in a relationship, and you need to know how to combine "he talk" and "she talk" into "we talk." So I feel like it's my job as a man and as a dating coach to help women learn how to understand "he talk" (or "man talk" as I like to call it), so that they won't need to hire a translator to understand what men are saying.
Women want men to express their feelings. They complain, "Why can't he just say he loves me?" or, "I wish he would just compliment me more."
What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you... they just do it using their own language. Men, in fact, sometimes don't use words at all when they are communicating with you.
This will help you understand men's verbal and non-verbal language.
Sometimes it's not what men say, but it's their actions that are significant. 
Sometimes it's not what men say, but it's their actions that are significant. It is necessary for women to learn to interpret men's roundabout way of communicating with them.
Here are 10 things that men say and do, and what they really mean:

1. He starts talking about how crazy all his single friends lives are, and then he tells you that he doesn't miss it at all. What most women will think if they hear this, is that he misses those days. This is not true. He says this because he is looking for confirmation that you feel exactly the same way. He also wants to communicate that he's ready to take the relationship to the next level.
2. Since you recently took him to your family's house for dinner, he can't stop talking about how much fun he had with your brother. What he means here is that he really likes your family, and wouldn't mind being a part of your family.
3. He teases you about things like how clumsy you are or about how you put smiley faces in every one of your emails. What he's really telling you when he does this is that he really likes you a lot. Remember that men are just giant boys... we tease the ones we love and ignore the ones we don't.
4. A man tells you he needs his space. So what does this mean to you? It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he'll start calling you and wondering what happened.
5. A man says that he really wants you to meet his parents. What does this mean in man talk? He's telling you that you are his girlfriend, and that he is ready to take it to the next level by getting you involved with his family. This brings us right to the next bit of man talk.
6. When a man calls you and says, "I want you to meet my friends on Friday night," this is as big as meeting his parents. He's introducing you to his pack. It means that he thinks you are attractive and sexy, and he wants to show you off to his friends.
7. After sleeping over at his house several times, he tells you that the next time you sleep over you should bring some things to make you feel more comfortable and a change of clothing. In man talk, that is basically telling you that he's wondering what it would be like to live with you. He also wants your things around.
8. You have plans with him on a Sunday, and you find out that he passed up floor seats to his favorite basketball team to keep those plans with you. What does that tell you in man talk? It tells you that he's hooked... and that you are his girlfriend.
9. He is watching one of your favorite shows on a night you're not together, and he calls you afterwards to talk about it. In man talk, what does this mean? By doing this, he's telling you that he pays attention to you, and he's interested in learning more about you and sharing more things with you. Men generally do not choose to watch "Project Runway" on their own. If we're watching your TV shows, we really like you.
10. He tells you, "I've cleaned today." What this means in man talk is, "I spent the day doing something I dislike more than anything." You need to realize that when a man says this to you, he really likes you. To most men, cleaning the house is just about the worst way he can spend a day.

Once you understand the hidden language and actions of man talk, you'll become far more secure in your dating and relationships. 
Once you understand the hidden language and actions of man talk, you'll become far more secure in your dating and relationships. So the next time you go over to your man's house and he looks at you and says, "I cleaned today," you'll know that he really meant to say, "I must really like you, because I can ignore my mess most of the time."
*FROM nirdla_24 of pinoyden

How to write love letters

HOW TO WRITE LOVE LETTERS?

Creativeness. That is the rule when you're writing love letters. You cannot be too staid, too formal, or too ordinary. You have to be different and you have to create a positive, lasting impression on the mind of the receiver of the letter.

So, how do you write a decent love letter? First, ask yourself what you want to achieve by writing a love letter. Do you want to reassure a loved one of your promise to him or her? Do you want to make up with your sweetheart? Or do you just want to say "i love you?" Definitely, you have to be clear with your intention. You cannot just ramble incessantly.

Second, determine what tone you're going to use in your letter. You can be formal, although it takes a lot of finesse to carry that through. You can be poetic, in the tradition of the browning couple, or you can be witty. The latter is sometimes more effective and more attention-grabbing than anything else.

Third, go to your favorite place. It can be your bedroom, the garden, the roof of your house, the library, or anywhere you feel safe, comfortable, and happy. Why? Because when you're in your most favorite place, you guards are all down. You're more attuned to your feelings. Thus, if you're in this condition, you'll never run out of things to say or write.

Fourth, if you're having difficulty deciding how start your letter, get a scratch paper and scribble everything that comes into your mind. Then read all that you have written and pick out the most interesting sentence or phrase you have made. After that, compose your letter using this as your sping board. Eventually, the words will flow more freely.

Fifth, re-read your letter and put yourself in the addressee's place. Think how he or she will feel while reading your letter. Needless to say, this is also a good time to check your grammar. In a social letter, such as a love letter, the conventions in writing are not so strictly followed. After all, you're not applying for a job or anything. But then, you're striving to make a good impression, if you're just in the courting stage. So, it will help if your letter will reflect a positive image of yourself. Moreover, whatever stage you and your loved one are in, in a relationship, anybody will always appreciate receiving a well-written letter.

And finally, to be able to write a decent love letter, be true to yourself. If you're a simple guy, don't pass yourself off as someone who is sophisticated or intellectually gifted. Don't use high sounding words. Don't resort to name dropping as well. And don't you ever use a ghost writer to do your personal letters. It is not only ill-mannered but also an admission that you are not worthy of anybody's trust, respect and love.

So, relax. Just listen to your heart and you will never do wrong.



POINTERS IN WRITING LOVE LETTERS:

Here are some tips you can follow to write effective love letters:

1. As much as possible, use your own handwriting when writing your letter. However, encoded letters sent via e-mail are also permissible.

2. Write legibly and avoid erasures.

3. Use a pen with black or blue ink to write your letters. Avoid using neon-colored pens, especially when your letter is long.

4. Write on a clean and fresh stationery.

5. Be honest, sincere, candid, and considerate of other people's feelings when writing your letter.

6. Use the language you're most comfortable in.

7. Avoid using a ghost-writer.

8. Be interesting and decisive.

(I suggest that you use scented papers. Or spray a soft scented perfume on a paper that you are going to write.)

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Real Life Cheats and Informations

 1.      When you have forgotten someone's name, 
simply say: "I'm sorry, but what was your name
one more time?". They may act offended, but when
they give you their first name, you simply reply,
"No, i meant your last name."(more socially acceptable to forget).
Bingo, first & last name.

2. Lift yourself a little off the toilet if noise is
a concern & you're having a particularly gaseous
bowel movement. The volume will decrease at least 50-60%.

3. Instead of using Ctrl+Alt+Del to pull up your Task Manager,
use Ctrl+Shift+Esc. Many contemporary systems have an extra
screen with "lock computer", "change password", etc.
for Ctrl+Alt+Del combination, but using Ctrl+Shift+Esc
pulls up the task manager directly.

4. Match voice volume with someone you're speaking with,
if they speak fast you speak fast, if they speak softly
you speak softly. It's a subtle way to quickly become "in sync"
with someone else.

5. If you make eye contact with a hot girl, don't be the
first one to break eye contact. It's a game, & you will lose
when you look away first. It takes some practice for
this to not feel awkward, but a subtle smile can earn you
bonus points. Also, in this day & age i think it's safe to say
that girls who expose their cleavage want it to be noticed.
Take a glance or two but don't be greedy.

6. If your shoes smell from foot odor,
treat your feet, not your shoes.

7. Honesty is a virtue. You'll gain more respect
if you're always honest with your dealings.
Don't waste your own time dealing with dishonest people.

8. If you were alive in 2006, you are one of the
many recipients of Time Magazine's Person of the Year Award.
In 2006, Time Magazine gave "Everyone" the award
while making their cover as close to a mirror as possible.
Be sure you mark it on your resume.

9. If someone is attacking you from very close range &
you can't get away, never throw a punch. You may want
to use your other hand to grab the back of their head & pull
them towards you as you swing with your elbow.
Otherwise, you won't get either the hitting surface or the
power needed to actually hurt them & no one likes being
hit in the nose.

10. For essays with minimum page requirement,
if you finish your paper & realize that what you
wrote is a shy of the minimum requirement, Ctrl F your paper
& search for "." and then change the font size of
the periods from 12 to 14. They are the exact
same size, but it causes the paper to be significantly longer.

11. Fast toilet cleaning: pour 20oz of coke(or sprite) into
your toilet, let sit for 10 minutes, flush. The acid will clean
your bowl.

12. Find a genre of novels that interests you & spend some
time reading. It will expand your vocabulary & improve
your grammar.

13. Default installations of Windows XP Home have an
unpassworded administrator account. Press Ctrl+Alt-Del twice
on the login screen & you'll be taken to one where you can
enter any username - put in "Administrator", no password
& you're in.

14. Be selfless. Put others before yourself. Not only it is
personally rewarding, it is often reciprocated. Be nice! Open doors
for people. Let people turn when driving. Hold out chairs for
people, etc.

15. rainymood.com & simplynoise.com are the cheat codes for
studying/working without distraction.

16. Be careful when someone asks you about religion.
Few ask out of genuine curiosity; most who bring out the subject
can't stand the thought that others disagree with them, & feel
the need to confirm that others agree with them & convert
anyone who doesn't. Either way no useful conversation will
result. A similar rule applies to politics.

17. If your drive stick & the battery is dead, get some friends,
put the key to the on position, put the car in 2nd & push the
clutch down. Have your friends push your car. When you get a decent
speed going, let the clutch up(this is called "Popping the clutch").
Your car will start & you can drive around for a while to recharge
your battery(provided nothing is wrong with battery or the
alternator).

18. Up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, repeat until orgasm.

19. If you spill any liquid(red wine, juice, etc.) that will stain
your carpet, pour some salt on it. Work it into the carpet - just rub it in with
your hands. Leave it there for a few hours (for serious stains, up to a day),
& vacuum it out. Voila, stain gone.

20.Make a woman happy & she'll make your life incredible.

21. Cut negative people out of your life.

22. If you are driving an unfamiliar car & you don't know
which side the gas tank is on, just look at the little pump
icon next to the gas gauge on the dashboard. The pump
handle on the icon will be on the side of the tank.

23. 1st Date Cheat Code for Men:
Never tell a girl where you're going or how to dress. Instead,
tell her to "Dress for a first date with a guy she really likes".

Now, pick three places you'd like to go: 1. some place fun
& active(bowling, pool, mini golf, go-kart racing, ballgame,
etc.) 2. something romantic & classy(nice restaurant, upscale
lounge, art gallery opening) & 3. something in between(nice
bar, coffee shop, comedy club).

Now, when you pick her up, let the way she's dressed decide
which you're going to do: If she's wearing something sexy
& revealing(dress, high heels, low cut top, etc.), then she wants
to go somewhere classy & romantic. If she's sporting
some jeans, tennis shoes or flip flops, & a tee, the bowling
ally or pool hall may be a good bet. If she's wearing jeans,
high heeled boots, & nice top or blouse, then she's not really
jonesing for the super romance treatment, & she put in
more effort than mini golf deserves (eighteen holes of
mini golf in heels.... seriously?), so a comedy club or some
place with live music is a good choice.

And never, EVER, do a movie on the first date!

Men, you're going to wear a pair of CLEAN, NEAT jeans,
a pressed stylish down shirt , nice shoes(try to avoid
tennis shoes or sneakers). Works for ANY occasion!

24. If you get brain freeze from eating cold too quickly,
press your tongue against the roof of your mouth as
hard as you can. Voila, instant brain freeze relief.

25. If you need to be sick for something publicly,
eat about half a cigarette. You'll get sweaty dizzy pale clammy
& all around you'll look & feel very sick. In about 20min
after eating, you'll aggressively vomit everything you've
eaten & expel the tobacco that's making you sick.
A dramatic, but effective way to prove sickness.

26.   If you get angry & might snap at someone or something, take a very large
deep breath & exhale. It'll put you at ease quick.

27.   If you have computer problems, start by rebooting & see if the problem is still there.



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